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5/29/2018 0 Comments
The choice always stays yours!
Stress can keep you from finishing tasks or chores and can negatively affect many parts of your life. It’s important to take note of when stress starts taking over your life where you can’t even do easy tasks, so that you can step back when necessary. When under extreme stress, feeling unhappy, confused or angry, we often develop bad habits which exacerbate the stress. Some of these habits include:
Sometimes, going through rough times can make you turn to food to cope with stress. But if you realise that food has become your coping mechanism for stress then it can get problematic because it can lead to you compromising your health. Dealing with emotional eating may cause you to have a poor diet leading to blood sugar imbalances and cause an even higher level of stress.
Drinking and smoking, or any addiction
Substance abuse is a common habit amongst people who are stressed out. People often turn to drugs, smoking and alcohol as a way to cope with their problems.
When you delay getting tasks done on time, you may end up panicking. This can lead to you stressing even more and becoming increasingly anxious because you end up having more work that needs to be done in a shorter space of time. The best thing to do is face each task individually, measure how long it will take you to get it done and then…just get it done!
Doing it alone
Being independent is a great characteristic because you rely mostly on yourself to get things done. But you can ask for help if you feel overwhelmed with having too much on your plate. You are not alone. You can try and do everything on your own, but it’s difficult. Getting help from your family and friends may end up being a fun experience and remind you that you are stronger as a team.
Focusing on mistakes you’ve made
The sooner you learn to accept the things you can’t change and stop focusing on your mistakes the less you will stress and become more at peace with yourself and others. Learn from your mistakes but obsessing over what you should have done will not change anything and isn’t healthy for your mental state. The only things you can change are your attitude and behaviour. Focus on doing better the next time.
If you have developed any of these habits, or others that are becoming a problem, give me a call. Contact me on email@example.com or on 084 779 4889. Visit my website on www.nadinetherapy.co.za.
5/20/2018 0 Comments
The choice always stays yours!
Have you ever made a bad decision? Some people respond well in stressful situations and some people lose focus and can make costly mistakes. Why does stress cause many people to have impaired decision making?
The survival mechanisms that make up the stress response are very primitive in origin. These date back well before the development of a cognitive process, such as decision making. In fact, humans, alone, can analyse and decide about their actions in a deliberate and logical way. Human brains still have the primitive responses for survival "hard-wired" into the mechanism of response to stress. When stressed, the more basic and primitive parts of the human brain take over. The middle and lower brain, which can react more quickly to threats by preparing you to fight or flight can become dominant. The logical, "thinking" part of the upper brain shuts down and good decisions are placed lower as a survival priority. In our complex society the non-thinking reactions to stress can get you in trouble.
When we are stressed it is common to have several reactions that reduce effective decision making including:
Pre-occupation with an idea, even if it is old or ineffective. We do this because we fear new ideas or activities as a response to being overwhelmed and stressed. We tend to do things the way we always have done, rather than using new ways or new technologies.
Our concentration is impaired. Too much internal "noise" and distraction from our thoughts because of our stress. There is deterioration in judgment and logical thinking - we become more reactive. We fall into negative self-evaluations as stress affects our self-esteem and self-confidence. Negative thinking and self-criticism are not useful to move forward in a positive direction. We have less objectivity for a reality-check that can show the overall position in the "bigger" picture.
Creativity is reduced. We see fewer alternatives and this reduces the brainstorming necessary for appropriate problem solving. Our search for input of useful information is impaired.
We fail to see and understand the long-term consequences of decisions. This can lead to serious mistakes. We do not communicate as effectively to get input, to make good decisions, and then to communicate and motivate people to get the required actions to successfully carry out a decision.
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5/13/2018 0 Comments
Self-destructive behaviour is, at first glance, amongst the most enigmatic and counterintuitive emotional disorders. How is it possible that someone would wish to harm themselves?
It seems to run directly against everyone’s apparently obvious wish to seek out pleasure and happiness. There’s something disturbing about wishing to damage oneself, not protecting oneself, to seek out suffering. People who discover this trait in themselves are often deeply troubled by it. And yet, if we take a step back for a minute, sooner or later we will observe that self-destructive behaviour is far from being unusual.
It does sometimes present itself in very clear and recognisable forms, where the wish to destroy oneself is manifest and conscious (or almost): self-mutilation, certain drug-abuses, or exposing oneself willingly to another person’s violence, are examples of this.
However, these manifestations, so blatantly recognisable, are not by any means the most common forms of self-destructive behaviour. Far more common are all the subtle and compulsive forms of self-sabotage, of which the individual has no awareness whatsoever, and that effectively attack her or his wellbeing.
To be continually self-derogatory, seeking humiliation without realising it, approaching everything from a negative standpoint, going through mysterious and repetitive failures, hanging onto unhealthy situations, or constantly finding oneself in the position of a victim are among the many ways that can be used to harm oneself.
Some examples of Self Destructive Behaviour
If we investigate these situations in depth, we will first discover the relatively transparent incapability of allowing oneself to simply be happy. But we will also find, and much less obviously so, the secret pleasure that is obtained from suffering –– secret because it is unacceptable to our consciousness.
Self-destructive behaviour is a subconscious or intentional, impulsive, or planned action or way of life that can cause physical or psychological harm. It is a complex dysfunctional behaviour that can escalate and lead to death in extreme cases. Early intervention and treatment can prevent this outcome.
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5/6/2018 0 Comments
The message that I would like to bring forth is what emotions, behaviours, mistakes and habits people have and make that prevents them from having a fulfilled, happy and inner balanced life.
Starting with emotions……………………………………….
Emotions can make you feel like you’re on a roller coaster sometimes. During one day you can experience a range of emotions – happiness, sadness, anger, excitement, nervousness, confusion, anxiety – you name it, you can feel it.
If you've wondered what to do with these feelings, however, you are not alone in struggling with negative emotions. Many people have the same question about stress and coping. When they feel overcome with negative emotions like hurt, frustration or anger, they know they shouldn't pretend they feel nothing, but they also don't want to dwell on negative feelings and ruminate.
Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others and take away your confidence. Emotions that can become negative are hate, anger, jealousy and sadness. Yet, in the right context, these feelings are completely natural.
Negative emotions can dampen our enthusiasm for life, depending on how long we let them affect us and the way we choose to express them. Negative emotions stop us from thinking and behaving rationally and seeing situations in their true perspective. When this occurs, we tend to see only what we want to see and remember only what we want to remember. This only prolongs the anger or grief and prevents us from enjoying life.
The longer this goes on, the more entrenched the problem becomes. Dealing with negative emotions inappropriately can also be harmful - for example, expressing anger with violence.
Negative emotions can come from a triggering event: an overwhelming workload, for example; they also the result of our thoughts surrounding an event; the way we interpret what happened can alter how we experience the event and whether or not it causes stress. The key job of your emotions is to get you to see the problem, so you can make necessary changes.
Some points to remember when feeling negative emotions:
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