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“Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand-and melting like a snowflake.” - Francis Bacon Sr.
Isn’t it a shame?
You’ve studied and worked hard to get to where you are.
And you got that job.
But now, it just doesn’t feel right.
So how do you access your courage and do what you love?
Some things to think about:
Choose to live by design instead of by default
Take a step back and look at what kind of life you truly want to live. Does it look like the one you’re living today? Don’t settle for mediocrity or life by default.
Fear regret rather than failure
Failing means you tried and learned something. Regret, on the other hand, comes as a response to what hasn’t happened. It’s an ugly emotion that usually doesn’t show up until it’s already too late.
Let happiness be the key to success
Studies prove that happiness fuels success and performance, not the other way around. Creating a life around what makes you happy is the key to living a truly successful life.
Come back to the present moment
Worrying about the future doesn’t change anything; instead, it hinders you from making the best of this moment. Here and now is all we ever have. It’s the only place where we have control.
Trust that you have a gift to offer
You have something special only you can offer this world.
Connect with like-minded people
Connect with people that are on a similar journey to yours. Build a support network, in person and online.
Take risks for what you will gain long-term
Sometimes we need to take risks and make short-term sacrifices for what will serve us long-term.
Just think about this. Staying in an unfulfilling job means taking a greater risk since you already know it’s not what you want. So, you risk more by not taking risks.
Know that the timing is never right
The time will never come when all the conditions are right.
Trust that the path will unfold
What’s scary in following your dream is that the path is unclear. Stepping off the beaten path means that you can’t see a straight road in sight.
Make uncomfortable the new comfortable
When we want something we don’t have, we must do things we haven’t done before. And that means becoming uncomfortable.
Nurture faith, not fear.
Live by Choice Instead of Chance
Wouldn’t you rather live life by choice instead of chance? Wouldn’t you rather look back and know that you did everything you could to create the life you desire instead of wishing you’d had? Wouldn’t you rather take a chance on faith instead of fear?
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Since we were kids we've heard, "Don't quit your job until you have a new one!" We've heard it a million times. We learned that you can't just walk off the job one day because you're sick of it or because something unpleasant happens at work.
When you can manage a stealth job search and walk into your boss' office to give notice knowing that you have another job to go to, it's a wonderful thing. Real life doesn't always work out that way, though.
Some people are so burnt out by their jobs that they aren't in shape to job-hunt. They don't have their feet under them. Their mojo is completely gone. It's hard enough to drag yourself into your workplace when you hate your job and hate yourself for being there.
You must listen to your body. Your body is smarter about these things than your mind is!
Think about the issues below related to your current job:
Your safety comes before any other priority. If it's not safe for you to be at your job, you must get out, even if it puts your finances in a terrible spot.
Your health is more important than the continuity of your career history. If your job is making you sick, physically or otherwise, you may have to quit the job before you're strong and collected enough to job-hunt effectively. Some toxic workplaces keep everybody in fear, all the time. You may need to quit the job, take a breather and start your job search later.
When your job is destroying your equilibrium, you may not be able to wait to quit until you have a solid, career-type job lined up. You may jump at anything that looks like a lifeline - or even a life preserver!
Don't let anybody, however well-meaning, tell you to "stick it out" at a job that is harmful to your health. Your body knows best. Mother Nature is in charge, not us! If you can launch a quiet job search and get a new job before you quit the old one, excellent! That's a magnificent plan. If you can't, then don't berate yourself. Your body knows what's best for you. If you need to quit the job you've got in order to remember who you are and take a little time to regroup, do that.
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