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Managing Stress In a New Marriage
The word newly-weds is synonymous with a happy, joyful and pleasant couple. Where you and your partner are meant to be head over heels in love with one another and seen to be gliding through love. But with any relationship that requires human interaction, stresses will arise, internally and externally. Here is how newlyweds can navigate through stress:
Keeping Your Marriage Alive With the HELP of Counselling
Counselling can be very hard on a marriage; it can first expose the cracks and hidden truths about you or your partner and thus impact your daily lives before starting the healing and fulfilling process. While it is important and beneficial for couples to undergo therapy and to complete the cycle, it is important to not take your problems home, but rather practice the solutions at home. Here are solutions you can practice to keep your marriage alive while undergoing counselling:
• Feedback – Post a therapy session, both partners can be left feeling embarrassed, betrayed, shocked or disappointed. Instead of leaving the issues outside of the therapist’s door, why not unpack it at home once you have both calmed down. Take some time out to digest it separately and don’t go to bed without sharing your feedback to one another.
• 10 things I love about you – In the height of intense therapy sessions, jot down 10 things you love and appreciate about your partner and keep this list around you. In a time of doubt, go back to the list and it will keep you calm and remind you why you are working through your issues.
• Date night – Schedule a weekly date night and rotate who is in charge of the booking. At the date night, no phones or distractions allowed. No need to discuss pertinent issues from therapy, treat these evenings as casual dates to catch up each other.
• Engage other couples – Identify another couple whose energy you admire, a couple who is open about their journey and willing to be there for you in good times and bad. Check in often with this couple, even in good times to merely share experiences. Sometimes it takes an external viewpoint to help you appreciate what you have.
• Revisit the places where you first fell in love – Revisiting the places and people that evoked your love will warm your heart as you remember activities linked to that specific place. This should bring joy to the both of you and help lessen the tension.
• Laugh when you can - Nurturing your sense of humour can be another great asset in learning to embrace the ups and downs. Try saying something out of character to shake things up a bit. Because you share the same values and stand for the same things, perhaps the absurdity will help the situation.
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