Mental Preparation – Correction vs Crash

Building resilience has become a fundamental skill in today’s challenging world. The popular view of ‘tomorrow will be better’ is often a denial of dealing with our pain in the moment. Tomorrow is often better, but sometimes it is not. And even if it is, a day will come when our pain surfaces again and we go back into denial and push through the tough times at the expense of healing and finding deeper meaning and the true purpose of our lives.
 
Resilience is defined as “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties”. A person with good resilience can bounce back more quickly and with less stress than someone whose resilience is less developed. Everybody has resilience. It’s just a question of how much and how well you put it to good use in your life.
Everyone can learn to increase their resilience abilities.
 
All you need to do to increase your resilience is have the willingness to do so. Part of building resilience is about finding one’s purpose. What in the bigger scheme of life makes you realise your value to yourself and others? How do you find meaning in life, even when days are dark? We often need to question our values and behaviours to find our true meaning. This is not an overnight journey, but more of a life long one of discovery. It is not always a pleasant journey, often difficult, but always rewarding. It takes time and self-awareness to be conscious of the choices we make, how they impact our lives and the lives of others. Self-reflection in an honest and non-judgemental way is required as we walk this path.
 
As we continue our search for personal meaning, we will need to correct our thoughts and actions, and gently guide ourselves to a place of compassion and understanding, both for ourselves and others.
Building better resilience takes time, effort, commitment, and focus. It will not just happen to you overnight. It’s a process that will take time to learn and master.
 
Don’t be frustrated by this, because unlike your eye colour or height, resilience is not a trait but rather a skill that you can readily enhance with patience and training. This may mean the difference between a crisis-filled life or a life of meaning. The journey is worth it.
 
Let me assist you in your journey  - contact me on [email protected] or on 084 779 4889. Visit my website on www.nadinetherapy.co.za.

Credit: psychcom