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We are already in the middle of January – so how are you feeling? Everything is back in full swing – school has started, we are back at work, the traffic is hectic. Real life, I guess. So how do we cope and make the best of 2019?
While there are no easy or quick answers, here are some guidelines that may resonate with you.
Take a deep breath. It is easy for our fears to overwhelm us. Panic, fitful sleep and intense anxiety can escalate quickly. There is much research evidence as well as clinical best practices that underscore the importance of taking some long, deep, and diaphragmatic breaths to help calm us down and both help organise and centre us. While the popular suggestion, “don’t forget to breathe” seems a bit silly, it really is wise advice to pay close attention to your breath and be mindful that your breath can help you manage daily challenges. It is free, always available, easy and effective – try it!
Grow where you are planted. It is easy to be overcome with all the challenges of our nation and world. Know what you can’t change and what you can – and make a difference right where you are – your home, community, work - leave someone feeling better after an encounter with you. Be kind – to yourself and others.
Reflect on your own values. Regardless of what goes on around us and what we hear about in the media, we make daily choices about who we are and who we want to be. We can decide what values we hold near and dear to us and live them. Living a life of honesty, integrity, responsibility, concern for others inspires and motivates us to thrive in challenging environments.
Be thoughtful about media exposure. With the presence of 24/7 news as well as the influence of social media, it is easy to feel overwhelmed about the troubles of the world. Be thoughtful about too much media exposure. Spend time in nature away from computers and smartphones. Research suggests that too much screen time is bad for our mental health and time in nature, as well as with caring and supportive others, is good for our mental health too.
Becoming a mentally strong person takes practice and mindfulness. What happens to us plays far less a role in our happiness and success than our response to what happens to us.
To develop and maintain the kind of mental resilience that contributes to a healthy and happy life, daily attention must be given to our thoughts and behaviours.
Help keep yourself prepared for whatever comes your way tomorrow by practicing good habits of mind and attitude:
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